For the last couple of weeks I have been reading
"
Passages -- the predictable crisis of adult life"
by Gail Sheehy. The book documents the various crises
that a person goes through during their lives. The book
is based on interviews with couples and single people.
Many of the case studies dealt with men getting close to 40
and them worrying about their careers. There were crisis
aroud 30 as well. She claimed that people start
to want to change after 7 years.
The book is slightly
out of date, because some of the problems were caused by
women not working. There are also problems at the ages
around 20 and 30 of course. Some of the stories
appalled me. One guy gets his wife preganant so
that she can't go to law school. He wanted lots of kids, but
he was only willing to sepnd 30 minutes with them in
the morning and evening. What a shit!
One problem with me is that I am too old and many
of the problems have passed. I should have faced them
and grown as an individual, rather than remain the same.
I do now see more patterns in people's behavior. How
Many of the case studies dealt with men getting close to 40
and them worrying about their careers. There were crisis
aroud 30 as well. She claimed that people start
to want to change after 7 years.
The book is slightly
out of date, because some of the problems were caused by
women not working. There are also problems at the ages
around 20 and 30 of course. Some of the stories
appalled me. One guy gets his wife preganant so
that she can't go to law school. He wanted lots of kids, but
he was only willing to sepnd 30 minutes with them in
the morning and evening. What a shit!
One problem with me is that I am too old and many
of the problems have passed. I should have faced them
and grown as an individual, rather than remain the same.
I do now see more patterns in people's behavior. How
this helps me I don't know.
Actually, of course I am ready for my mid-life crisis.
Since I am not married, I can't get divorced and trade
in my wife for a younger model. I may have to make do
with changing careers.